This weekend I have been lucky enough to get away for a little momma recuperation. I am at the Southern California Mother of Twins Convention which meets up twice a year. At these events I am surrounded by gaggles of beautiful, inspiring moms who have had the experience of mothering more than one baby at a time. There is something satisfying and comforting about being around these women. We have all had similar experiences. I found it quite fateful that two of the moms sitting next to each other at my lunch table (coincidentally, as we are assigned to tables but not specific seats) introduced themselves and had a shared history of struggles with infertility and fertility treatments. This is what these clubs do for us. They sit you right next to the people who can guide you through your struggles and inspire you to not only make it through your children’s current STAGE OF TERROR, but they inspire you to be the best parent you can be. It’s more than a sisterhood. It’s a sisterhood of mothers.
This weekend we will enjoy meals together, fundraising “opportunity drawings” (legal raffles), libations, meetings and workshops. Our club gets quite a few mommas to go and we wind up having a grown up sleepover. (Chillax husbands, we only have one pillow fight…)
I was surprised to learn that, despite the rise of multiples joining our world, there has been a decline in club membership. I get it. It took me an entire year of struggle and tears to join my local club. I just couldn’t gather the energy to leave the house after putting the kids to bed, to attend a meeting. Looking back at that year, I WISH I had pushed myself that extra little bit and joined my club earlier. My fellow club members have become sisters, counselors, and sounding boards. Not to mention, they have included me on many a play date and the much needed mom’s night outs.
If you are a mother of multiples, I BEG you, reach out and find your local club. If there isn’t a local club, contact your national club (National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club) and ask them how to start a local chapter. Our club has moms with children ranging in age from their 30′s to newborns. I am so lucky and grateful to be a part of such a wonderful organization. I hope you find comfort in an organization like I have. Even if you don’t have twins, triplets, etc. check out your local mom’s club, it helps drive the “crazies” away!